Relationship Audit

2 Samuel 13

6 Now his father, King David, had never disciplined him at any time, even by asking, “Why are you doing that?”

1 King 1:6 [NLT]

28 “Absalom ordered his men, ‘Listen! When Amnon is in high spirits from drinking wine and I say to you, ‘Strike Amnon down,’ then kill him. Don’t be afraid. Haven’t I given you this order? Be strong and brave.’ 29 So Absalom’s men did to Amnon what Absalom had ordered. Then all the king’s sons got up, mounted their mules and fled.”

2 Samuel 13:28–29 [NIV]

3 Questions That Shape Every Relationship.

1. Where’s Your Passion?

2 Amnon became so obsessed with his sister Tamar that he made himself ill. She was a virgin, and it seemed impossible for him to do anything to her.

2 Samuel 13:2 [NIV]

4 Nevertheless I have this against you, that you have left your first love.

Revelation 2:4 [NKJV]

14 Each person is tempted when they are dragged away by their own evil desire and enticed. 15 Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death.

James 1:14–15[NIV]

12 Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a longing fulfilled is a tree of life.

Proverbs 13:12 [NIV]

9 For zeal for your house consumes me…

Psalm 69:9 [NIV]

9 But if I say, “I will not mention His word or speak anymore in His name,” His word is in my heart like a fire, a fire shut up in my bones. I am weary of holding it in; indeed, I cannot.”

Jeremiah 20:9 [NIV]

2 I know your willingness,...and your zeal has stirred up the majority. 

2 Corinthians 9:2 [NKJV]

2. Who’s Influencing You?

3 But Amnon had a friend whose name was Jonadab, the son of Shimeah, David’s brother; and Jonadab was a very shrewd man.

2 Samuel 13:3 [NASB1995] 

16 So I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh. 17 For the flesh desires what is contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit what is contrary to the flesh. They are in conflict with each other, so that you are not to do whatever you want.

Galatians 5:16-17 [NIV]

20 Become wise by walking with the wise; hang out with fools and watch your life fall to pieces.

Proverbs 13:20 [MSG]

11 Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.

1 Thessalonians 5:11 [NIV]

25 And let us not neglect our meeting together, as some people do, but encourage one another, especially now that the day of his return is drawing near.

Hebrews 10:25 [NLT]

42 They devoted themselves to the apostles’ teaching and to fellowship, to the breaking of bread and to prayer. 43 Everyone was filled with awe at the many wonders and signs performed by the apostles. 44 All the believers were together and had everything in common.

Acts 2:42-44 [NIV]

19 You're no longer strangers or outsiders. You belong here, with as much right to the name Christian as anyone. God is building a home. He's using us all - irrespective of how we got here - in what He is building.

Ephesians 2:19 [MSG]

17 A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for a time of adversity.

Proverbs 17:17 [NIV]

24 There are “friends” who destroy each other, but a real friend sticks closer than a brother.

Proverbs 18:24 [NLT]

5 Better is open rebuke than hidden love. 6 Wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multiplies kisses.

Proverbs 27:5–6 [NIV]

9 Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: 10 If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.

Ecclesiastes 4:9–10 [NIV]

3. What’s Your Relational Rhythm?

14 But he wouldn’t listen to her; and since he was stronger than she, he forced her.

2 Samuel 13:14 [TLB]

15 Then Amnon became extremely hateful toward her, for his hatred toward her was greater than the love which he had for her. And Amnon said to her, “Get up and get out!”

2 Samuel 13:15 [AMP]

28 "Are you tired? Worn out? Burned out on religion? Come to Me. Get away with Me and you'll recover your life. I'll show you how to take a real rest. 29 Walk with Me and work with Me - watch how I do it. Learn the unforced rhythms of grace. I won't lay anything heavy or ill-fitting on you. 30 Keep company with Me and you'll learn to live freely and lightly."

Matthew 11:28-30 [MSG]

17 The Spirit and the bride say, “Come!” Let those who hear this say, “Come!” Let those who are thirsty come! Let those who want the water of life take it as a gift.

Revelation 22:17 [GWT]